Saying Goodbye
My last week in China was hectic. Running around to goodbye dinners and farewell parties for me and the other semester students offered little time to see any last minute sites.
Nevertheless I was able to go to the big Chinese History museum at People’s Square. After seeing all the exhibits I was walking out when a couple of Chinese university students asked me to take their picture in front of the museum. Afterwards I talked to them for a while. They practiced their English and I practiced my Chinese. I told them all about studying at East China Normal University, how much I loved China, my host family, sports I played, and how much I liked Chinese people. Since they were tourists from up North, I knew more about the city than they did, and I was able to give them some tips on good places to go and see. I also told them which Universities to go to when they studied abroad in the States.In that moment I realized how far I had come in studying Chinese. I could speak mostly Chinese with these people and get my point across. I also understood many cultural references and historical events they talked about in our conversation. After I left them and walked back to the metro station (and while I was getting lost in the labyrinth of shops around the subway), I tried to reflect on the goals I had before coming to China and how well I fulfilled them.
I had three main goals. My first goal was to understand Chinese culture and it people. I know I accomplished this goal extremely well. I always asked my host family what they thought about Americans and people from other countries, notably Japan and Germany, whom they still resent due to World War II. I have learned how strong family ties are in Chinese families. Three generations of my host family live together and they all get along and spend as much time together as they can. The older family members make many sacrifices for the younger ones, more than one would expect in America. Conversely I also got an idea for the drive for success that many Chinese have. My host father works away from home, coming home once in four months. He wants a better life for himself and his family and he is working as hard as he possibly can to reach this goal. This is both a noble lesson in determination and discipline, but it also fits into the larger picture of the declining health of many Chinese due to their overworked lifestyle.
I also wanted to develop my language skills. I wanted to be able to speak conversational Chinese after the first semester. I definitely surpassed this goal. I had many conversations with friendly Chinese on the streets, just like those people at the museum. I studied fairly well, but the end goal is to retain my knowledge, and to do that, I plan to continue studying on my own here in Australia, and to take courses in college.
My third goal was for some form of personal growth. A huge part of taking my gap year was that I had to learn or grow in some way that I couldn’t learn just through college. I can identify three ways in which I have grown. Firstly I have developed a better ability to manage my time. In high school, I would procrastinate, procrastinate, and then procrastinate some more, waiting until the last possible moment to get things done. In reality, this wasn’t an acceptable way to get my work done, and it hurt me a lot without noticing it. In China, it’s not that I had an overwhelming amount of work, but I had a lot of things that needed to get done. So even if they were not a huge amount of work, I still needed to budget my time properly. This is a crucial skill that I needed to develop before going to college. Another skill I developed was to be more accepting of people. Studying with people all over the world at ECNU and becoming friends with people from all over the States through CIEE, I learned not to judge people by their stereotype. Finally I learned to appreciate other cultures while living with my host family. Seeing how other people live, allowed me to absorb the best part of their culture, namely the importance of family and studies, and blend them with my own culture. I feel extremely happy with how I developed. Mission accomplished.















